Some people think being tough skinned is for chumps.
I believe it is a necessity in both whatever your job is and in life in general.
Am I thick-skinned? LOL! No. But lately I have come to the realization it’s time to reduce my SPF and toughen up.
A lot of people think being thick-skinned will allow people to use anger to fuel their success. I don’t think revenge is the way.
There are several things I personally am trying to practice in order to get my lizard skin. . .I am hoping I will see the benefits soon.
I encourage you to try the following if you are feeling you skin is on the thin side (;
1- Write Down What You Have Been Avoiding & ACT ON IT!
Look at your agenda. If you don’t have an agenda, make one. Write down everything you believe you need to do today, this week and this month. Review the list and find the items on the list you very much want to put off or avoid. Copy and paste those ‘procrastination’ tasks on a separate sheet and put it in plain sight on your desk. Every day, go down the list and do one. Never go a day without doing one of your procrastination tasks. Ugh, there is always something I procrastinate on.
2- Approach The Un-Approachable
“You miss every shot you don’t take.” Sound familiar?
This one is not just about tackling your agenda but it hits you on much deeper and on a personal level. For instance, if you are single and there is a person you have always wanted to talk to but never have, the next time you see him or her, take action, engage and ask him or her out. If the person says no, are you in any worse position then you were the moment before you asked the person? Of course not! Maybe you have a really great business idea that you would like to run by your boss, but your scared-straight of being rejected or worried your idea will totally be dismissed. Oh well, you tried right! You can only benefit from this.
Go up to that person , whoever it may be and do what you have to do and say what you have to say. This will give you the best chances to get what you want.
4- Look People In The Eye Each Day
I really struggle with this especially when teaching yoga. Is it nerves? Fear that if I look a student straight in the eye I may be disappointed if they look bored, annoyed, exhausted? Insecurity?
It is very uncomfortable at first, but like building a muscle, it gets stronger the more times you put in the work. Start trying to make eye contact with strangers throughout the day. If they say something negative, use the excuse of saying, “sorry, I have mistaken you for someone else (;
5- Approach 3 people a day
This can really toughen you up. Approaching people can really toughen you up. Go up to the sales clerk if you can’t find what you need. Ask for directions from a random passerby when lost. Approach that person in Starbucks that your attracted to. Tell the waiter you want to send back your meal if it is ice-cold! This will help you gain that tough skin so you can approach anyone without getting nervous or tongue-tied!
You will learn how to be faster on your toes and think better.
Who have you done wrong in life? Can you contact them and apologize? It’s not easy. Make amends as best you can. Think about people who you have done wrong in your life, then contact them and apologize. Whether it was recent or a long time ago.
“Life begins when you get out of your comfort zone.”
If you notice, there is a consistent pattern in all of the above actions, namely, doing what is uncomfortable. Write down anything else you have been putting off in any part of your life, both professionally and personally. If you haven’t gotten up the courage to go to the gym, yoga, face your finances, etc. do it! Whatever it is that you have been putting off or afraid to do, JUST DO IT!
I hope you find these tips helpful. Once we become unafraid to do what is uncomfortable, these things will actually be things that excite us. Discomfort will be gone. And really, who puts off things they are excited about?
I am working on these daily, and I encourage your to do the same while keeping a tender heart.